Relationship, Marriage and Sex

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Relationship:
Love is the most profound and pious emotion known to living beings. Love makes the sense for other emotions and affection. Love can be between anyone, living being to living being and even living being to any non living object. Love is such a tight a bond in which the bounded one feels blessed and lucky.
There are many kinds of love, but most people state it as the expression of “Romantic relationship”. People finds a compatible partner and the there the love starts to blossom. Except for celibate ones, romantic relationships are the most meaningful and important for everyone. It fills the life with the essence of joy, happiness and heavenly pleasure. Romance or romantic relationship is the best source for providing deep fulfillment and satisfaction with the current life.
The ability to have a healthy relationship is not innate. People says that the relationships are defined in heaven, but in my views if they are defined in heaven then why many sees failure in their relationship?
Its us who define and progress our destined relationship. Most of us have to work consciously to master the skills necessary to make them flourish. You can learn what you need to know to make your relationship last. Relationship needs dedication and seeks the art of giving.

Marriage:
Marriage is a practice of announcing the relationship publicly and making it official and permanent. It is the fusion of two bodies and souls in a bond that is assumed to last until death, but in certain cases, that bond is cut short by divorce. When the mental and physical compatibility is strong, the bond of relationship does not ends very easily, it continues to decades. A lot of things happen with time between cohabitants, the best change is their art of smile becomes identical also lot changes in personalities and bodily moment can be seen in the decade old happily married couple. Over the time romantic love waxes and wanes, no marriage is free of conflicts. What enables a couple to endure is how wholly they handle those conflicts. Every time you have to do is to make things that can make the spark alive.

Sex:
It is the most basic act that human seeks. It is the first thing that is needed for the next generation, as without sex you can not even produce your descendant. Sex is described in many culture, infact every religion, civilization defined sex with different perspective. But still sex is termed to be the least talked subject. It is mostly conversed in an anonymous way.
In Indian culture sex is portraited as a type of yoga which is pious in nature iff it is done by adding the spice of love. Even though the lust have also to be there with love for getting the full pleasure in sex, but the practice with only lust it is a work of sin.

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How much Expectation, Dependency and Space must be there in a Relationship

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“In my opinion… In relationship there must be 100% dependence and 100% expectations… And add one more point 100% space”

Now it’s confusing, How there can be dependency, expectations and space simultaneously in a relationship?

Dependency:

“A perfect relationship be like ‘Ek duje k liye’, Without other one, One can not even live… That’s full dependency.”

Relationship makes two souls to be merged as one, emotions and the feelings gives the pleasure incomparable to heaven, thought of separation gives the shocking vibrations. This is the actual full dependency. Here you must not take the word ‘live’ as it is. No one dies because of any broken relationship.

Now I want you to focus on these two types of couples based on dependency:

  1. Codependent couples
  2. Interdependent couples

Codependent couples refers to the situation when a person seeks every little thing from his/her partner. Broadly codependent relationships as a specific type of dysfunctional helping relationship, one person’s helps other in such a way which further leads to other’s underachievement, irresponsibility, immaturity, addiction, procrastination, or poor mental or physical health.

Interdependent couples are those who are having a healthy interconnection between them. They are not afraid to be honest, tries to fulfill the needs of other. In fact, this type of mature relationship gives each of them more freedom. There is mutual respect and support for each other’s personal goals, but both are committed to the relationship.

Now you can realize how 100% dependency can be achieved in a relationship.
Expectations:

“Because of that dependence, one expects that the other one should always be near to him/her… That’s expectancy.”

In a sense, expectations are the flip side of obligations; if someone has an obligation towards you, you usually have an expectation that the obligation will be fulfilled.
Expectations makes the relationship bond stronger when taken in positive way. Because of this expectation only all the feelings like eagerness, accepting, understanding, joy, satisfaction, bless, anger, persuasion, etc. spice up the relationship. And the best one is feeling of fortunate and lucky comes because of the fulfillment of expectations.
There also comes a thing like ‘Mind-read’, it is where the partner thinks that other one must read his/her mind and do the things as expected. Be aware, in the starting of a relationship there may come time when you have to tell your partner about what you expected.
Such things can happen again and again in a very short period. It is said to be the learning stage in a relationship. But after a certain level, if you feel you have to say the words, “I expected you to…,” there’s something wrong. Ideally, partners will feel free to do what they want to do, including things they want to do for each other, and if their feelings are strong and they are truly compatible, their actions will be as well. Here obligation must be focused not the immature expectation.

Space:

“Space is when, nobody forces the other to stop doing what he/she likes, Means related to hobbies and interfering between his/her friends”

Loving deeply doesn’t mean forcing to be together every minute and to complete the orders. Giving space shows how much you respect your partners feeling and desires.

These are my views over the topic. I want you to share your opinions in this matter too.

<—It’s normal to feel attached, to desire closeness, to be concerned for each another, and to depend upon each other—>