Yes… you can also be Friendzoned (for girls)

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“There is no word like Friendzone in boy’s dictionary, in case they want anything like same… Sisterzone and GetLostZone is quite famous”

First thing to get into mind is, there is no sanskari boy exist in the world who would friendzoned or sisterzone any girl without any proper reason. It totally depends on your move and the behaviour which turns him down.
Now we come over the point what puts a girl in friendzone.

Every boy have some kind of taste, some gets turn on over good looks, figure and hotness, some over the sense of humour, some finds the girl suitable and attractive after a long time being in friendship and some even don’t know that they are attracted or not (confused ones). As there are number of turn ons, there are number of things that turns off them and probably that single time turn off can permanently turn them down and for being safe they puts you in friendzone or sisterzone. Some of the turn offs were like:

Frequent talks about your male friends: Yup, it’s one of the main reason. Some finds in irritatable and some finds it offensive. Yes… the feel of insecurity is there in boys too and that too constant and frequent talk about your friends will think them to be competitive, which starts with positive mood and ends in final breakup (as there is a limit of bearable stress). So, better talk less about that. Boys want all things clear and easy. Even though you were been in relationship earlier, better just make him aware of that in the early stage, but never ever compare or talk about the previous experiences in future.

Lack of sexual attraction: Obviously one will not find you comfortable as his girlfriend if your personality makes you seem more like a sister. Your behaviour seems too innocent to them which may remind them of their sisters. This scenario is not that catastrophical as in the starting stage of friendship boy will make you aware of that will also treat you as his sister.

When romance thing is like mirage: Even though girl be beautiful but if there is very less romantic vibes between the couple then there is probably larger chances of becoming just friends in the middle stage of relationship. It is also good for both as after all the relationship is for romance.

Going out with his friend: Hahahah, I don’t want to comment over this, but yes, if you go out with his friends without any proper reason and without proper informing, it will be very bad for you. It is because, you don’t know his friends as better he knows them.

If he thinks you are not interested in him: For getting idea about this fact, read my previous blog post “That [space] with the word friend“. Be aware that boys are more confused when they ask you out.

Uncontrolled emotions: Some boys are very sensitive and emotional. When they find that the emotional graph is going towards the fatigue point and also in mean time they find you unreachable(in terms of relationship), they will surely put you into sisterzone not even as a normal friend.

– These are just the common points that can open the door of friendzone to you. There could also be more causes/points which are either out of my mind or are bit not that much commonly affective. So, use your own intution too.

“Friendzone is more dangerous than being just friends”

That [Space] before the word friend

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I’m not talking about the personal space, I’m talking about the spelling where there is a [space] between two words and if that [space] get remove will make the change the meaning of the combination.

Didn’t got yet? it’s girl/boy [space] friend. Yup, there is a vast difference between girl[space]friend and girlfriend; similarly for boy[space]friend and boyfriend.

Most of the people specially boys can’t judge that [space] before their friendship, they always think that there is no space. While the scenario is different with girls; they know where is [space] and where is not. Even though they treat all of their boy[space]friends as special but the fact remain same that in girls mind they have that [space] before the friendship, while in same time boy thinks wao the [space] is not there as they gets special treatment everytime.
Situation becomes worse when boy ask that girl out or do propose, and is awarded with a one line sentence which is: “I thought we were just friends”, and that heart breaking situation makes him realize that he is in friendzone.

Boys… one thing you must remember is that about every boy in the world gets into friendzone atleast ones in his life (the reason is same… their ignorance about that [space]…).

And for Girls… I think you must give some hint about the [space] if there. I know you all aware and know if there is [space] or not. Giving hint about the [space] much before the boy interprete the scenario in different way will make him realize the friendzone much before the situation gets worse and also will be safe from the heart break in later stage. And if there is not any [space] then ask him out immediately, start or propose by yourself or atleast give him a serious hint. It is because we boys remains confused and nervous over the presence or absence of that [space].

Positive Jealousy

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“A feeling that is usually termed as bad, but in case of love, attachment or something like that, it is very usual and sometimes necessary”

Yup I’m talking about jealousness. About every single person in this world is suffering from this problem. It is both bad and good. Here in this blog I’m not covering the bad jealousness but the type of it which is very necessary in one’s life.

One of the most crucial situation in our life is the time you are in a such a position which is above friendship but below relationship. Every love life starts when two strangers meet and becomes friends, after some time bonding between them gets some strength and so the term called best friend emerges. After that best friend thing their mental thinking capabilities and other activities or likliness makes them to be close friends. Till now it’s normal, but now the cruicial situation occurs and the jealousness comes into the picture.

One may get over possessive towards the other. Becoming more concious about the activities of other. Gathering all information about his/her friends is normal in this time period and also giving more attention when there is any activity/meeting/outing is planned between his/her old friends specially who were close to them before or are even close in present.

That thing… That over possessiveness makes one more jealous which is good and it needs to be there untill and unless it is not making any side effects. Getting negative thoughts in mind is also very common which involves thoughts like that pre planed activity is bogus or is irrelevant or something.

If one does not have the feeling of jealousy then I think that person is not competitive and also not so serious about the closeness/relationship. Jealousness makes the person to work beyond his own capabilities, which also increase the bond and makes one to do such acts which directly or indirectly relates to get more attention and care of other.

“Positiveness and limits in anything gives the best results”